For the vast majority of my life, I didn’t believe I could do most of the things I wanted to do.
I knew I wanted to be in a relationship, but I feared that if I got into one I’d do something to mess it up.
I wanted to be a writer, but I thought it was far too difficult to get published and therefore didn’t even try until my early twenties.
Probably, you have never been as unsure of yourself as I used to be, but you can likely relate to that feeling of wanting to do something but feeling terrified to start. This not only limits your potential in life; it also minimizes your ability to make a positive impact on the world around you.
Here are 6 Ways to Live the Life of Your Dreams:
If you always do things as you’ve always done them of course you won’t feel confident.
Remove your “self” from the equation. Take action and tell yourself that you are doing it as an experiment to see what happens. The outcome doesn’t matter, you are doing these things so you can see what happens and become more comfortable with the process. Accept from day one you are going to fail, make peace with it, not as a judgment on you… but at an outcome that is 50% likely to happen. But often, just taking the pressure off you, will help so much you will not fail.
-Learn to receive praise.
Confidence is earned through positive recognition and reinforcement. ~Don La Franchi
It’s amazing how easy it is to believe all the negative things people say and simply discredit the positive. Taking compliment is an art. Sometimes, it’s instinctive to assume they’re just being nice or that maybe you aren’t really skilled—you just got lucky.
Occasionally, this may be true, but for the most part you earn the praise you receive. Don’t talk yourself out of believing it. Instead, recycle it into confidence. You did a fantastic job on your project at work; that means you can do it again. You had an amazing performance; that means you can trust you’re talented.
Other people want you to succeed. Now you just have to believe them when they show yo, you are worthy.
-Embrace the unknown.
People often think confidence means knowing you can create the outcome you desire. To some extent it does, but this idea isn’t universally true for everyone. No matter how talented, smart, or capable you are, you cannot predict or control everything that happens in your life.
-Even confident people lose jobs, relationships, and sometimes, their health.
Confidence comes from knowing your competence but acknowledging it is not solely responsible for creating your world. When you take that weight off your shoulders and realize that sometimes the twists and turns have nothing to do with what you did or should have done, it’s easier to feel confident in what you bring to the table.
-Lean into your Authenticity.
Once you get clear on what you are REALLY doing here start to live into it. Maybe your unique purpose is to show the world that true love is possible, or that creativity is the root of happiness. Whatever your purpose is, when you actually begin to align your life with that purpose your life will get easier.
Because being yourself is life-giving. Because being in touch with your unique purpose means decision-making gets easy.Your decisions become less influenced by other people’s opinions, how much money you can acquire, and what you can buy to numb yourself out because you hate your life. You start to take inspired action. In addition to ease ,you can start experiencing joy and fulfillment.
-Trust your capabilities.
Confidence comes not from knowing you know everything, but from knowing you can handle what comes up. ~Donn King
No one in the world knows everything. Everyone is good at some things and not so good at others. Don’t weigh your security against what you know or can do; weigh it against your willingness and capacity to learn.
If someone criticizes you, take it is an opportunity to improve. If someone does better than you, see it as an opportunity to learn from them. If you fall short at something, realize you can get closer next time. Don’t worry if you’re not confident in what you can do now—be confident in your potential.
So get going!Live the life of your dreams now!
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